Commencement Speech for the Undeclared in Life
Currently we are upon graduation season and I always get a kick out of the celebrity guest commencement speeches that offer inspiration to the young adults going off into the world. It dawned on me that there is a large group of people who haven’t figured out where their place in the world is. These people range from high school seniors on to people in their late years that are currently married with children suffering in silence because they don’t have the time and/ or financial freedom to figure it out. Guess what? You are going to be ok! Your existence is a series of ever moving pieces. I would like to take this opportunity to stand here at the podium and give a graduation commencement speech to those of you who are undeclared, overwhelmed, haven’t figured out your purpose, or thought you had it together but then realized you made the wrong choice. This commencement speech is will shine light on your position in life.
WHO ARE YOU COMPETING AGAINST?
There are different groups of people at various stages in life. One group of people have parents that enroll them into activities that help them as children discover their talents early on. The next is a small group of prodigies that were born with fully developed talents; the universe needed their talents to help mankind immediately. Finally there is your group, the group with the most potential because you grow into your talent organically. Sure you feel the pressure of choosing a career, we all do. What makes you special is that once you get over the anxiety of having failed to fly early on, you a can then begin to thoroughly explore the possibilities of a life well lived. Your choices will be without doubt, because you would have taken the time to explore all of your options. In this moment you can go on to make temporary choices that allow you the opportunity to test and perfect the recipe of your life. If you can help it, try not to get locked into anything that will prevent you from developing such as creating debt, ostentatious lifestyles, drug use, etc. In the event that you experience detours or setbacks… just reroute and keep moving forward. No road to greatness is easy, and nothing happens by chance. Some situations are presented early on to prepare us for the next moving piece. Also know that when you encounter someone that appears to have it all together, know that they are working just as hard as you at either figuring it out at whatever stage they are on. Their purpose moves them through life and once you discover yours, you will move with certainty and confidence. Don’t waste time trying to compete with others… your path is front of you, keep your eyes on the road ahead.
THE KITTY BRADSHAW PROCESS
Often times I go into deep meditation seeking out my definition of happiness. I ask myself questions like am I happy, what is that underlying thing that is keeping me from being happy, or what am I passionate about in this moment? There were plenty of days when I stayed in bed because I didn’t want to address the issues or became overwhelmed with making monumental choices. For years I had a talent that was right in front of my face, but I mistook it for a hobby. Once it became clear to me that my hobby was actually a talent, I began building a life around it. While the pieces of my life are ever changing, my talent remains fixed. My talent give me purpose, and having purpose makes me happy. As I work at developing my talents, they will morph into something else. Life will also throw in curve balls such as family, children, mortgages, etc. As the pieces change, so will I. As humans, we will forever evolve throughout our lifetime. If you choose not to participate in life, you will disintegrate. Your time is now, this is the point where you hop in the game.
HERE IS YOUR QUE FOR GREATNESS
Seeking your place can be a daunting task especially when a lot of your peers appear to be making great strides. In this moment gauge what your interest are. What makes you happy? What brings you joy? If you have no answers then go off the grid and perform a series of experiments. Stop hanging out with friends, cut off the tv, and awaken your senses. Go dance in the rain, volunteer, go to the movies by yourself, purchase and use a random Groupon activity, take a trip…. BY YOURSELF! The purpose of these experiments is to flush out your potential by discovering your likes and dislikes. Keep performing random experiments until you figure out what you’re good at. From that point on your passions will become clear.
Success can only be obtained when you live out your purpose and not someone elses. There are cases when our parents sabotage us by trying to push their professions, failed aspirations, or insecurities onto us. The other scenario is watching our peers take off like a rocket after they have found where their passions lay. The lesson you need to take from this speech is to live your own life! We all peak at different intervals. Your peak may not be in this moment, but while you wait you need to work towards discovering the recipe of your life. The uncategorized have to travel further, experiment more, get over the fear of failing, and/or start over from scratch time and time again until they get it right. You have to be open and honest with yourself, and find the courage to go against society’s expectations of you.
TIME TO GRADUATE
So in conclusion let me ask you… are you currently happy? Why not or why so? Are you capable of being adventurous? If so, know that when you have purpose it stops being work and starts becoming passion. Passion will drive you to make great strides in life. Passion will wake you up in the morning before your alarm clock, and keep going past quitting time. The key is to find your happy.
Good Luck To You, Undeclared, Overwhelmed, Haven’t figured out your purpose, or Thought you had it together but then realized you made the wrong choice… you are now on your way.